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jestdotty
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Biggest mistake I've made in my life is assuming other people knew more than me and asking for advice and integrating their advice. I suffered many years being tortured by terrible advice that had no actual relation or usefulness in reality but caused me stress to have to follow, and I was too inexperienced to know any of this.

The other problem with bad advice is; how do you know it's bad advice? If you got the advice when you were naive, and you followed it, never strayed from it, you will still be naive in that area, because of the dutifulness by which you stuck to that advice. You literally imprison yourself, forever, especially if you are very good at putting effort in and have high conscientiousness, reliability. You will never know you were wrong.

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  • 3
    Ugh, story of my life. I general I do my own thing and wait for comments. I don't ask for advise most times because then you have to take it
  • 8
    Remember: science is just a formal word for 'fuck around and find out'. Until we meet again.
    Source: Skeletor

    ^ i.e. we wouldn't be here today, talking about this on computers, without experimentation and questioning existing truths.
    If you don't know if advice is sound: run an experiment!
  • 6
    Hidden skill: I'm dumb senpai, can you elaborate...

    Not joking. Always ask more than one person for advice and play pretend that you are the biggest moron.

    Its easier to find bad advice when people show a complete lack of basic knowledge.

    Red flag. Absolute red flag.
  • 4
    @IntrusionCM That's actually darn good. Easy to spot organizational rot and that, of course, what they're asking for is not A, it's E or even Z.
  • 2
    this can save you 50% of the problem, but can't eliminate it completely.

    Ask them how they would do this x task.

    If they start to say "use this framework is cool, then i would also use this tech and this particular algorithm, it's brand new.... " and so on, you can just point your index finger to the door and say "here, go there and don't come back ever again", or either kill them to save frustration to someone else.
  • 6
    thats one of the most essential skills you learn in life: who to ignore.

    Then there are others who insist on offering unsolicited advice, half of whom offer it out of straight malice, because "muh crabbucket mentality", and become obstinate, persistent, and angry if you don't hang on their every word.

    I'll repeat the opening premise with some modification.

    thats one of the most essential skills you learn in life: who to ignore and who to ruthlessly ridicule as retarded.
  • 0
    @jestdotty No problem, my friend. Just hire them then. In a year or so you will come here and say "that bastard had a point".

    Personal experience
  • 0
    @jestdotty That hit me in the gut. I can feel you
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